This person has to live with you and all your quirky ways and is still with you. Many couples are faced with this sharing the covers situation and deal with it in different ways. Some people use separate blankets, some use separate top sheets and blankets, some separate duvets, and others separate beds.
Like many aspects of a relationship, it can be a give and take scenario. I give an inch, you take a mile, you take the covers and I take them back. Not the best way to get a good nights sleep.
Of course, there are other aspects to sleeping together that can affect sleep and your relationship. They can be snoring, temperature, tossing and turning, sleep talking, space invasion, light sleepers, different schedules and many more.
Interestingly, according to the National Sleep Foundation's sleep in American polls couples sleeping separately has risen. In 2001 it was 12% and by 2005 it went up to 23%.
Research also reports of the health benefits of sleeping together. One study conducted by Dr. Wendy Troxel of the University of Pittsburgh found that women in stable relationships fell asleep faster and had less difficulty staying asleep all night than women who were single or no longer in a relationship.
Sleep is critical to our health and this study supports the idea that sleeping with your partner provides real health benefits.
An interesting article on this by Christine Hsu is found on Medical Daily. Be forewarned there are lots of advertisements on this page.
Whether you sleep together or sleep apart is ultimately about what challenges you have and works best for you.
For us, our biggest challenge sleeping together has been blanket hogging. We use our Excess Comfort bedding, cherish each other for who we are and accept all our quirky ways. A healthy relationship involves a lot of compromises and we no longer have to compromise on the covers!
This is an interactive blog and we encourage you to post any challenges you may have sleeping together, getting a good nights sleep and what works best for you.